I have had the experiance of people “unfriending” me. What bothers me most about this is that no one ever seems to communicate anymore.. like hey you hurt my feelings.. and I would like to talk to you about that.
Instead – suddenly your silently and swiftly “unfriended” on the internet social network – which is fine I guess except between Muslims isn’t it better to try to work things out?
You would think so.. I would think so.. but it seems that in the electronic age – its become permissible to just cut people off without a word.
The irony of this post is that I was at the Taleef Collective this past Sunday and the teacher Usman Canon talked about this very phenomenon. Its literally creating more fitna in the Ummah. SubhannaAllah. He said some brothers and sisters will be all up in arms about it.
I can understand the feeling of shock especially given the lack of communication from the person “unfriending,” that the person who is “unfriended” experiences.
The internet has created a space where people act in ways they wouldn’t otherwise act given because it provides a openness and a level of freedom from social rules that we experiance in real life.
This is why its so important to work harder to maintain those niceties. At least this is my opinion. In Islam we are suppose to work on addressing our grievances before removing ourselves from a relationship.. in some cases we just have to deal because the rights the person has over us is such there isn’t much we can do.
I guess what I am saying is – lets do our best to maintain relationships in the internet realm in the same good manners we would in real life. Maintain our dignity and others by simply maintaining the same moral and ethical code we would offline.
This is a reminder to myself.. and inshaAllah my readers.